Negative emotions sap your energy and undermine your effectiveness. In the negative emotional state, you find the lack of desire to do anything. The mind is filled with thoughts of fear, doubts and insecurities. Your body experiences fatigue, tightness and muscle tension.
Notice that your negative emotions arise when you respond to something, attach a meaning to it and picture it in your mind. You add power to it by using words to label and describe the situation or emotion. You will then experience the sensation and respond accordingly, as you always, have unconsciously. The ability to deal with negative emotions will change your responses to situations and people.
How to deal with negative emotions
Decision
It takes a decision to change anything. Once you decide that you no longer want
to allow your negative emotions to control your life, you will take action to
manage them when the first hint appears.
Awareness
You should condition yourself to become aware of your emotions and the stimulus
that trigger them. When you are aware, you are able to look at it squarely.
Train your mind to "catch" yourself getting into an emotional state.
Questioning
It takes conscious awareness to question your limiting feelings and state of
mind. Questioning yourself is a way to dehypnotize your way of getting into an
automatic state. Question your reasons, assumptions and understandings in order
to change the intensity and meaning you attach to your emotions.
Change your focus
When you focus on hurtful feeling, fear and all other negative state of
emotions, you will enlarge them. You need to refocus and divert your attention
to what you want to experience. Instead of brooding and playing disempowering
images and talking negatively to yourself, take a different action. Since you
have total control over your thoughts at any given time, you can shift your
thinking. The best way to shift your thinking and refocus is to do something
physically. Moving your body through physical activity changes your internal
state of mind.
De-stress and relax
When there is a lot of stress in your life, everything seems against you.
De-stress yourself at intervals during your waking hours by taking time to relax
and exercise breathing techniques. A calm and peaceful mind is able to produce
positive emotions and a better outlook about life and events.
Accept responsibility
Try to remind yourself that the cause of your anger, hurt and fear are not due
to external situations or people. It exists inside you. If you can control and
manage your negative emotions, nothing out there will affect your state of mind
and body.
Author : Fatimah Musa Site: about-personal-growth